Anyone Marry a Super Great Nice Person, Who Doesn’t Really “Bring it” to Bed?

Hey, truly nice people can be hard to find; And, especially if you’re not that interested in sex anyway, kindness more than makes up for bangin’-ness.

But this might be the worst of situations for those who are craving it – starving for a fucking of brains out; but, they’ve got an amazing and wonderful significant other – they’ll never have an excuse.

I’ve known a few people in a situation like this; less often men: not that there aren’t a lot of men with wives holding out on them, but there wives don’t seem very kindly. Besides, I’m not talking about one partner holding out on the other, or sexless marriages, I’m talking about reality – where they’re trying, but just not hot –  or, just can’t work it like you need it.

I haven’t been married, but I know it’s not exciting all the time, forever, for anyone. But some people seem too selfless in choosing their spouse for his or her kindness. I’m probably sounding like a dick in saying it, but some marry above or below their league, and then pay for it.

This one girl who I knew for around four years, she worked with me at the same company, and was the poster child for this kind of tragedy.

First, she was gorgeous, not bimbo hot, but classy perfect. Second, she married a really nice guy, several inches shorter, who you could just tell,  wasn’t fucking her well.

She was too good, and he was too good, there would be no leeway coming their way; I could  tell, because she was always friendly and never happy; she wanted to be a good person and not judge or be picky, but now she’s stuck with someone unattractive and lousy.

I know, I know. I talk about reality, and sometimes It takes an assholish-vernacular to get close to the truth. Of course there are so many other aspects to life, marriage, and people; but, there’s a point where someone can be selfish with their kindness, and use it to get out of other forms of giving.

Is it “kind” to be with someone you cannot satisfy? Is it kind to pretend like you don’t know that they could do better? – and they’re trapped,  to late now that they’ve learned better?

There’s many types of inequity that can posses our relationships. Most of them we can  seek advise or help about, but how tough it is for a person to seek help about a wonderful, kind spouse, who’ll just never fuck them well?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Young ladies, thank me. These theories might save you from sexless marriage

Common scenarios that lead to extreme dissatisfaction with marital  sex life.

You can find a lot of blogs and discussions – where wives talk of sexless marriages. It’s hard to know how many are in such a marriage  – there may be many who are not bothered by it enough to blog about it.

Obviously sex is important for people – and lack of it can derail a marriage… but..

With all these wives in sexless marriages, it begs the question: are people getting married without a clear idea of what the sex will be like with their spouse?

Sure, sometimes people have health issues that prevent them from performing like they used to  – but I don’t believe sexual dysfunction is to blame in most cases. If not sexual dysfunction, what is it usually?

I don’t think I’ve ever known of anyone suffering through a sexless marriage because the husband was entirely dysfunctional. Less than ideal in various ways but not defunct.

So, what’s the deal with these sexless marriages then?

Every couple’s marriage is unique but I’ve noticed some patterns – perhaps some common paths that tend to lead a wife to a sexless, or sexually insufficient marriage. I gave seen men blogging  about their sexless marriage, I haven’t known any men who were fed up in their sexless marriages, otherwise, I may have included scenarios for men too.

Based on the situations I’ve seen where wives were fed up with their marital sex life, I propose the following theories.

Scenario #1 – Gold digger or Family martyr

Betty picks out and marries a responsible, good provider to have children with and the  sexual compatibility between her and her husband is a low priority concern. He may even be ten years older than her – all the better. The relevance of sexual compatibility is eclipsed by what seems more paramount to successful childbearing.  You can raise children without good sex – but food and shelter – pretty critical.

As the children need her less – and she has to find herself again – she realizes she wants sex; and, she wants it really bad because her sex life hasn’t been anybody’s priority for 15 or twenty years. If her sexual desires aren’t satisfied by her hard working, devoted husband and father of kids for 20 years, she betrays him for doing and being exactly what she married him for doing and being .

Scenario #2 – Horny and popular – marries jock

Wife marries a jock for his looks and perhaps sexual prowess, and doesn’t worry about how smart or responsible he is because she’s not ready to have kids yet anyway; – and, she over-values her guy’s teenage popularity.

(Of course, there are popular, hunks who are intelligent and have good character and families) …

but, those who don’t – who shined early – will likely not age well and become much less desirable before long. Unintelligent people take less care of themselves. If their is family instability and/or psychosis in his history – increases the likelihood of problems. Macho, highs school jocks often go bald in their twenties – do to unbalanced testosterone (that’s why they were young jocks) – they also never shed the cocky notion that wife should feel lucky to be with them – (because back in high school lots of girls had a crush etc.) – He’ll have depression because his HS popularity becomes irrelevant. He’s likely to cheat with girls who might make him feel like the young popular stud he was.

So, unhealthy, bald, possibly cheating, depressed, etc. etc. – if he’s able to fuck the wife after 40 – he’s likely to be such an asshole that she doesn’t feel like fucking him. So, the wife still likes sex as she always did – and if she’s smart,  she’ll probably go find the rich nerd that scenario #1 wife left – teach him how to have great sex; and scenario #1 wife will find #2 wife’s cheater ,ex-football burnout and get off on his big jock dick before the relationship goes nowhere.

Scenario #3 – high sex drive – high access to partners

This one is probably less common – but I find this scenario most interesting and erotic. Usually the wife is very attractive however not always – women don’t have to look like models to find a high availability of agreeable partners.

Sometimes the husband has a supercharged libido too – and they’ll swing or work something out. But, if the husband is just normal, when the opportunity to cheat is hot enough and the risk low enough – most these women will eventually encounter a “worth it” situation.

Women I’ve known like this don’t leave their husbands – don’t even tell him actually. The two I can think of who are not still with their husbands both caught cheating and the the husbands kicked them to the curb. Most are loving wives, but discreetly do stuff to supplement their sex life.