Cheating 12: Final conclusion, for now, until I have a different one.

Don’t do it.

Yes, I said it. which is to say, don’t break your vows or promises. If you’re in a sexless marriage, then get permission or get a divorce. Cheating is more about lying that it is about sex, and I believe lying is a sin, not sex.

There are hot stories to read  – fantasy and masturbation is free – none of us have to worry about “not-cheating” ourselves to death.

I’m not judging – not looking to get struck by lightning, I’m just sharing my conclusion – based on the discussion so far.


 


Cheating Series:

Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.
Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?
Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity
Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity
Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.
Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?
Cheating 7: When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship
Cheating 8: Is it Really Sex or affection we Want or is Cheating a Settlement?
Cheating 9: Considering Special Features in Defense of Sexual Infidelity
Cheating 10: Looking for a bit of fun before spilling the beans
Cheating XI: How Not to Sleep With Married People

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Anyone Marry a Super Great Nice Person, Who Doesn’t Really “Bring it” to Bed?

Hey, truly nice people can be hard to find; And, especially if you’re not that interested in sex anyway, kindness more than makes up for bangin’-ness.

But this might be the worst of situations for those who are craving it – starving for a fucking of brains out; but, they’ve got an amazing and wonderful significant other – they’ll never have an excuse.

I’ve known a few people in a situation like this; less often men: not that there aren’t a lot of men with wives holding out on them, but there wives don’t seem very kindly. Besides, I’m not talking about one partner holding out on the other, or sexless marriages, I’m talking about reality – where they’re trying, but just not hot –  or, just can’t work it like you need it.

I haven’t been married, but I know it’s not exciting all the time, forever, for anyone. But some people seem too selfless in choosing their spouse for his or her kindness. I’m probably sounding like a dick in saying it, but some marry above or below their league, and then pay for it.

This one girl who I knew for around four years, she worked with me at the same company, and was the poster child for this kind of tragedy.

First, she was gorgeous, not bimbo hot, but classy perfect. Second, she married a really nice guy, several inches shorter, who you could just tell,  wasn’t fucking her well.

She was too good, and he was too good, there would be no leeway coming their way; I could  tell, because she was always friendly and never happy; she wanted to be a good person and not judge or be picky, but now she’s stuck with someone unattractive and lousy.

I know, I know. I talk about reality, and sometimes It takes an assholish-vernacular to get close to the truth. Of course there are so many other aspects to life, marriage, and people; but, there’s a point where someone can be selfish with their kindness, and use it to get out of other forms of giving.

Is it “kind” to be with someone you cannot satisfy? Is it kind to pretend like you don’t know that they could do better? – and they’re trapped,  to late now that they’ve learned better?

There’s many types of inequity that can posses our relationships. Most of them we can  seek advise or help about, but how tough it is for a person to seek help about a wonderful, kind spouse, who’ll just never fuck them well?