Mexico – The Rest & the “Worst” of the Story

As I discussed last post (Do you ever lose yourself, your voice ever hide or go away? Reality is rough, right? or, is it just that I’m’ crazy?) , I have lost contact with inspiration and deeper meanings; so, I must resort to the most personal and sexual facts, with hopes they will interest the more forbidden aspects of your Dionysian desires.

By the way, this is the conclusion of a series about my Mexico trip. If you’re just joining the story, you might wish to start from the beginning here: Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

I convinced Rosalia and her crew mate (never fully did learn her name) to sneak back onto the boat with me. It wasn’t far from where we had done three Tequila shots – a five minute cab ride.

The crew mate was talkative and flirtatious even though she was the only one of us who was not single – she had a boyfriend in another town somewhere. Rosalia was extra cautious – almost like she wanted to make it clear that the night was not going to go anywhere that she figured I was wanting it to; however,  as the three of us talked for a good hour in the dark cockpit area of the day’s whale watching vessel, I lightly traced my fingers on here leg, and slowly up higher, and more inside her thigh. I think It just wore her down. The crew mate did most of the talking, and Rosalia became more and more quiet.

I knew I had found a good spot when Rosa’s responses had whittled down to just what was necessary to hang on to the conversation. The crew mate couldn’t see my hand under the large blank draped over our laps – but she probably noticed her friend drifting away. I knew I’d found a good spot on the inside of her thigh, and I softly traced my fingers there for the last twenty minutes of the discussion, going no farther.

The crew mate went down to the restroom, located on the port side of the boat, in the pontoon behind where Rosa and I were sitting. As soon as the mate disappeared down the stairs, Rosa and I began kissing. As we came together and began our kiss, I covered the remain ground up her leg, and gently rubbed her at the top. She spread her legs just enough to let me know I had her permission to continue touching her there.

It was painful, like a freezing cold shower to have to break off when the crew mate reemerged. Since Rosa was much to shy to do so on her own, I ever so slightly guided her hand over; and she, ever so slightly, took over once she felt what was happening under my pants – cautiously got a good  picture of how I was feeling about the situation.

When the crew mate got to the top of the stairs she shouted over to Rosa in Spanish. My English isn’t great, but I made out “pene,” or “pene de ballena” to be exact.

“What did she just say,” I asked Rosa.

“She’s just being stupid.”

“I asked if that’s where she saw the penis,”  the crew mate said in broken English, laughing. She was too amused with herself , and too buzzed to give a shit.

Rosa was trying to get her friend to shut up. I was no help, and played along. “The penis is over here now, why, you want to see see it too?”

The negotiation between the crew mate and I had already concluded Before Rosa could even begin to talk any sense into us. I took it out to show her – it was 3/4th hard and drooping left like a fat limp fishtail, and we all shared a moment of – drunken stupor.

It killed any chance of sleeping with Rosa that night – I didn’t really care, looking back I knew it would sabotage the Rosa situation. She was too good a person, I didn’t want to leave Mexico with the debt of disappointing her.

Rosa found the first available excuse to take off – not that it was early, it was at least 11pm when she left. The crew mate found a not so subtle excuse to remain with me on the boat, as if she needed my help to get home. But I agreed.

But I wasn’t going to bother with games – I had pissed Rosa away for her tiny little coworker’s amusement, and Maria (might be her name) knew it. I told her to take her pants off as soon as I could see that Rosa was safely in her cab. The crew mate complied.

Her underwear looked more like shorts than panties, I guess you’d call them “chonies,” I was robbed. So I told her to come close where I could see, and take off the chonies too. Lucky for her I find natural sexy. Had she not seen her boyfriend for a while? Whatever the case, she had a bush – it was totally ungroomed from what I could tell. She wasn’t my type – and I had not been that attracted until I saw her bush, and then felt how dripping wet she was. She was very responsive – was she ovulating, or  hadn’t seen her boyfriend in years? Whatever it was, Gloria was sensitive to every touch, and was about to get thoroughly fucked.

Okay, I planned on finishing up, but I must get some sleep. I’ll continue with the rest soon.

 

 

 

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Sooo.. Mexico part 5 & What is Really Going on When People Take a Break from Marriage.

Just tuning in? This story starts here -> Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Let’s consider some points on marital separation before we move on with the Mexico trip.

I shared the following view about “breaks from marriage,” at the start of this discussion.

Thesis: Couples  rarely use breaks from marriage for the sake of their marriage – it’s’ a decoy – a cover story. The real reason is to lesson the pain of – or dodge the guilt from what they actually want to do: if they want a break, they either want to cheat or want out of the marriage, or both.

If I’m right, that “separation” is usually a decoy for other intentions, is the real motive as simple as wanting extramarital sex or divorce?

Perhaps there are deeper motives that accompany such intentions.

“A new research paper from the University of Texas argues that women have affairs as a way of testing for superior partners. The so-called “mate-switching hypothesis,” argues professor David Buss..” (https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/zmbbbx/women-are-evolutionarily-programmed-to-cheat-researcher-says)

Sheri, like most others i have met who were separated, was undecided, if not ambiguous about when and whether she would be rejoining her husband. How will things change, and what would be learned that would inform such a decision? Probably nothing, my guess.

Actually, she will know one thing that she didn’t know before the separation: if there are any opportunities to trade up, or “mate-switch” as the hypothesis refers to.

There is no need to separate if it is just sex someone is after, no need to get a temporary separation for it. Sometimes people ask for divorce or become permanently separated for whatever reason, and in some cases, I think people want to soften the blow to their spouse, or the guilt that they feel. They separate as a way to ease out of the relationship.

But seriously…

I think most of the time, women take a break from marriage for the same reason I think Sheri did: to take a few test drives before the window of child rearing begins to close, and see if they might be able trade up.

Of course it is more complicated, and a less than ideal spouse has to do with bringing about the situation. That said, if I may be get back to the less complicated aspects – if she has good orgasms on any of these test drives, she’s much less likely to return to her husband. This statement isn’t as ridiculous nor “such a male thing to say” as you may think. There’s a growing amount of research that supports such crass notions.

Here is one theory about the evolutionary significance of female orgasms. (some have posited that there are several parallel purposes, this would be my guess. Sperm retention, mate selection and to increase the male’s sperm volume would be my top guesses – formal studies still pending. )

“It’s (orgasm) a way of helping women to identify high-quality mates. An alternative theory is that the female orgasm serves as a feedback mechanism that provides women with information about the reproductive potential and quality of their partners. https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2015/3/26/3-theories-about-the-purpose-of-the-female-orgasm

.. and if you think it is ridiculous to suggest that a woman’s marriage could depend, in anyway, on something so carnal, the following is a serious study that measures a variety of factors that correlate with frequency and strength of a woman’s orgasm: Broad shoulders, the guy’s symmetry, and his affluence to mention a few.  Guess which factor came in last? “How much the participants loved their partner showed the very lowest correlation to the women’s’ sexual satisfaction. Much higher towards the top, “orgasm intensity, and number of orgasms per encounter.” (duh)

“It is interesting that when one ranks the factors that predicted female sexual satisfaction, how much they loved their partner comes in far behind partner attractiveness, orgasm intensity, and number of orgasms per encounter. ”
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470491401200507


 

Getting to the marrow of it…

There is something that all separated women have in common, at least everyone I have ever met: they all have sex while separated. No, not all with me, but every last one was fucking somebody. Try to prove me wrong, you won’t, because it happens 100% of the time.

Why are we talking about women? Besides the fact that I prefer to? Because men don’t ask for separations, do they? And they shouldn’t, because the wives will get way more action; unless you want to give other men a taste, you might wish to think twice. about agreeing to such an idea.

Here are a few posts where  a number of poor husbands ask for advice about their wives who want some of this “space” from marriage…

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/b3ev1/my_wife_wants_a_trial_separation_and_some_time/

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2626600-My-Wife-wants-to-have-a-trial-separation-and-I-dont-some-good-advice-please

Little do these guys know, not only will their wives be having sex, it’s probably the main reason for the separation; and sex will likely be nastier than it is has ever been with these husbands.

Nobody goes through all the drama of asking for some time off marriage, and actually pull it off – snookering their spouse into agreeing to it, just so they can do some yoga and clear their head.  The plan is to  to try on some long-time fantasies and take measurement her current mate value. It will require experimentation, testing limits, and bundling whatever is most naughty into the situation.

Putting it all together…

Perhaps what separation does most, is provide obfuscation for whatever, even more scandalous things people can bundle in with their separations. Our culture has a context for “separation,” and it isn’t necessarily viewed as shameful. The “optics,” are less favorable, if one announces that they want to take a break from marriage to have nasty, primal sex with a few, or a bunch of men for a few months; much more palatable to “take a break” and “enjoy some space,” to, “get one’s head together


 

now back to Mexico, please next post coming soon.

 

Cheating Series XIII: Part 4 – Mexico trip , Masturbation a Slippery Slope, & Why Separation in Marriage Might be Ridiculous.

Just tuning in? This story starts here -> Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Part #4:

Leading up to Mexico, Sheri had been doing a lot of masturbating. I know this because while getting drunk together for lunch, the day after our making out at the bar, she let her hair down a bit and told me about how her collection of toys had been growing  precipitously over the past year.

The collection has grown to eight she estimated – with three toys that were in regular rotation. There is the high tech, oddly shaped vibrator she uses often, when efficiency is in order and she’s not up for a big production.

There’s a purple toy shaped like a penis, around seven inches long with a rabbit on it which she prefers for her long sessions when she has a good stretch of time to herself and wants to stretch it out and climax a number of times.

The third is a ten inch dildo that she likes when she’s feeling extra naughty – often when she’s had few drinks. She didn’t know if the toy was molded from someone’s actual cock, but said it looks extremely realistic.

I guess she got bored of the other toys, although has had a couple ‘marathon” days where she brought the whole box out.

I asked the obvious question – about why all the masturbating when she’s so hot and had a husband around to contribute to the cause.

“he’s bored of me, ” was her answer.

This was the hardest to believe of all the things Sheri told me. But she meant it. And, it’s a damn shame.

To be continued next post.


 

Cheating Series:

If you are interested in the topic, Here are the other installments of this series on cheating a and marital infidelity.

Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.

Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?

Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity

Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity

Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.

Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?

Cheating 7When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship

Cheating 8: Is it Really Sex or affection we Want or is Cheating a Settlement?

Cheating 9: Considering Special Features in Defense of Sexual Infidelity

Cheating 10: Looking for a bit of fun before spilling the beans

Cheating XI: How Not to Sleep With Married People

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Cheating Series XIII: Part 3 – Mexico trip & Why Separation in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Just tuning in? This story starts here -> Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Part #3:

Sheri had attended community college for a couple years prior to getting  married. She is smart as fuck, something that I’m sure gets lost on those who don’t care.

She said she is a member of Mensa – I actually believe it. Her dad is bi-polar, and a genius too, but the disorder, and his difficulty keeping a job, made for a rough childhood – as Sheri put it. A knew already. She was beautiful and gifted and a little off, like most are when they’ve been raised in an unstable environment. i didn’t hold it against her in the least. After all,  I’m not a genius and perhaps also a little “off” – and I’ve got nothing from   childhood to excuse it.

I was hoping to see her breasts again, i even reiterated that my dad and I would not be offended in the least if her and her travel mates wanted to do more topless sunbathing; as might be expected, the tactic was fruitless – there was no more topless sunbathing. I bet your feeling really sorry for me right now?

But hold your tears, the story isn’t over. I actually saw two of our vacation neighbors naked before the week was over, and the story about what happened with Sheri is only beginning. .

Continue to part 4 of this story: Cheating Series XIII: Part 4 – Mexico trip , Masturbation a Slippery Slope, & Why Separation in Marriage Might be Ridiculous.


 

Cheating Series:

If you are interested in the topic, Here are the other installments of this series on cheating a and marital infidelity.

Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.

Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?

Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity

Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity

Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.

Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?

Cheating 7When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship

Cheating 8: Is it Really Sex or affection we Want or is Cheating a Settlement?

Cheating 9: Considering Special Features in Defense of Sexual Infidelity

Cheating 10: Looking for a bit of fun before spilling the beans

Cheating XI: How Not to Sleep With Married People

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Cheating Series XIII: Part 2: Mexico & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Just Joining the story? Click here to read from the beginning.

We’d just checked into the condo and I went strait for the patio to check out the view. As if the beautiful ocean view wasn’t enough, I look over to my right and saw three women – two of them were topless, sunbathing.

They acted more concerned than I think they were – one of them didn’t even bother to cover herself. Apparently our unit was vacant for a few days, and since our patio was the only vantage point from which the ladies could be seen, they’d made use of the privacy.

After the tops were on we introduced ourselves. Two of them were from my state and the third a friend from Charlotte, NC. The large breasted brunette was a hair stylist and the other, the one who wasn’t in a hurry to hide her breasts, had dirty brown hair like mine and is married to an periodontist.

Obviously I invited them to come over later for happy hour. And they came, and we all drank.

I was traveling with one of my parents – my parents can party and are as great as people get  – but, their bedtime is a bit earlier than what I am used to. So, after they went to bed, I ventured across the street to see what trouble I could find, and lo and behold, the three neighbors were at the bar I wondered into, And, they were shitfaced – and proud of it!

I got a warm, neighborly welcome and we talked shit over several rounds of shots. The hair stylist, who just separated from her husband, casually invited me to check out the third floor, rooftop area. I think she wanted to smoke, whatever, doesn’t matter.

I wasn’t sober but she was less so. Nobody was up there on the top floor, so obviously, we started kissing. I took a moment to mention she was married, and she makes it clear that if not me, it would be someone.

She looked good, smelt good – my morals exercised some flexibility. A few minutes into kissing she started feeling crotch. They seriously must have revamped sex ed. just after I went through school – see my post on Why are Women so Quick to the Penis – Have the Rules Changed?

So I reached under her shirt and glazed my finger against her bra, over and around her nipple. Her fondling of me was working and I didn’t want to get a hard or worse up there, So I broke off and suggested we go do another shot. We exchanged iphone details and went down to join her friends. On the way to the bathroom I encountered the Southern friend and micro-madeout with her.

So, when I returned to the bar from the bathroom, I got to the bottom of things. with Sheri, you know, the one with nice hair and wondering hand?

Sheri moved into her own apartment a few weeks ago (just a week prior the Mexico trip). The separation followed just over a decade of marriage. It “wasn’t permanent, maybe, just a chance to have some distance, sort things out,” she told me.

“and have some hot sex with someone new?” yes I asked (I might sin but fuck it, I’m honest – especially when drinking).

“No, well maybe yes, but that’s.. I don’t know, it’s complicated,” Sheri fumbled, busted.

“Does he want to fuck around, I mean, do you think he will? Why you are separated?”

“No, well maybe, he doesn’t exactly have a lot of ‘game,’ so I doubt it.

“Are you going to fuck around?”

“Honestly? Probably. It’s been bad, have to make hay ya know?”

“Will you tell him about it?”

“Fuck no, he couldn’t deal.”

The cranky one of the three interrupted our conversation, had to go for some inexplicable reason, so the stylist left with a look that redefined, if not out performed all versions of the “I wanna fuck you” looks.

I went home and was down to my boxers, teeth were brushed and I was ready to get in bed, and she texted me, “I can’t sleep, want to go for a walk?”

I guess a 1am walk on the beach in Mexico sounded really safe to “drunk me,” so I said “yea,” and we met on here porch – the one where I caught her topless

We walked about fifty feet on the beach. It was empty and a bit creepy, so we walked back to the adjacent doors to our condos, and she invited me in. And we went strait to her room;  conveniently, the other two were sharing the master bedroom.

She dissipated into her bathroom for a while and I had almost worked up enough moral fortitude to leave, when she walk out.

Continue on to Part #3: Cheating Series XIII: Part 3 – Mexico trip & Why Separation in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

 

Cheating Series:

Cheating Series XIII: what happened in Mexico last week & Why Separation or “breaks” in Marriage Might be a Super Ridiculous idea.

Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.
Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?
Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity
Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity
Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.
Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?
Cheating 7: When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship
Cheating 8: Is it Really Sex or affection we Want or is Cheating a Settlement?
Cheating 9: Considering Special Features in Defense of Sexual Infidelity
Cheating 10: Looking for a bit of fun before spilling the beans
Cheating XI: How Not to Sleep With Married People

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Just Back From Week Vacation in Mexico – your choice now: meaningful or naughty

… and I just have one simple question

Do you want to read about the heart warming or the naughty part? (notice that an option for none of the above will not be provided.=d

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In the privacy of your mind

Would you have me in your thoughts?

What would you do with me there – where nobody would ever know

Not even me unless you wanted me to. What thoughts would you use.

Would you summon my grace and tender side – my sensitive touches

Or take the wildness, the reckless – me in my naughtier moods?

Would you think of my eyes – something innocently handsome

or something muscular, big and hard – things more masculine?

Would we do something I couldn’t imagine you lusting for?

My mind would imagine the desires in you to be shocking.

The wishes of your fantasies are my command – think and it is granted.

Look and I”ll show it – desire and we’ll do it.

I wish I knew what you’d have us do in your mind.

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Dildo or Man – and You a T-shirt, What’s Your Pleasure?

No, I’m not going to just give you dick and get you off – masturbation equipment. Why reduce our expectations all the way down to mere matters of friction? I can jack off into my t-shirt and not feel weird after – how absurd it would be to use an entire human being as a cum rage.

You don’t know it yet, but you’ll feel weird to. Maybe you won’t be able to explain, but some part of you will know that you just used a whole man and all his years of living – and all those who have become a part of him, as a dildo for masturbation. And it will get you off as good dildo would – as a good dildo should have. As my t-shirt is about to.

Does there have to be love? Does it have to be serious and complicated? Do we have to be romantic? Not necessarily,  but we’ve got to be more than t-shirts and dildos. The price is high to use a whole life just for getting off – what risk will you wager for the pleasure?


Nope, we don’t have to have love or romance; you can have me for a dark secret and a sin or two.

You will pay in full. No t-shirt has ever seen half the results you’ve come looking for.

Choose My Next Post: These are Bad – Good kind of Bad; okay, One Might be Bad Bad in a Goodish way.

update: Am hoping for a few more votes on this. Please use the anonymous form below to let me know which topic you prefer. I might add a few more choices – perhaps I’ll add more choices?

I was sitting down to write only to find I have several topics in mind that I cannot choose between.

Please help me decide by anonymously selecting your choice. Given that SSD is still some what of a fledgling, be assured your vote will have great sway and very likely determine the topic.

All votes are absolutely, 100% anonymous and appreciated.

Here are four brief summaries followed by a form to select which topic you are most interested in reading about,

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1. Date Boner episode II

If nothing else, I’ve always had a talent for getting an erection at the most embarrassing, random or inappropriate times. Since I have a few dozen such moments to draw upon, and it’s a relatively fun and easy topic, I am considering making it a series. This episode will tell about a very inappropriate and inopportune boner that happened on a company team-building retreat. The team building including a ropes course and the boner showed up while doing a challenge with – who else? but the bosses wife. Oh yes, she was fully aware of the situation, you won’t believe this calamity.

2. Orgasms this week in hospital basement.

If you like current story, this one is not even a week old. I have hardly spoken to this date I had over a month ago, but was at a farmers market near the hospital she works at on Sunday. I end up taking her lunch that I bought at the market, and three orgasms occurred in the basement where she worked before I left.

3. Open curtain show for neighbor

Yes, if you’ve been reading a while, that neighbor = the one with the home office over her garage in back of my house – with the direct view into my living area when blinds are open. To my surprise a date was amused by the little game the neighbor and I have had going on for a couple years now, and agreed to help me up the ante.

4. How to get a happy ending at Massage Envy.

Yes, blah blah blah, they don’t do that, impossible, that’s ridiculous…. heard it all before. Heard it from people that have worked there even. Fuck you, your wrong, it can happen – you just have to be a master massage receiver as my ex Morgan and I became during our a “study” we did on the matter. The study must be the only one of its kind – you can read about it and results from start to end in Dare II, the next publication of SSD. We both mastered the art of getting happy endings ( well my mastery of this was superior but Morgan’s talent formidable) . Anyway, yes you can get a happy ending at Massage Envy and even more unlikely places: his post will share some fascinating, and possibly useful secrets and techniques, along with one or two of the most interesting happy ending conquests.

See what I mean, good options, right? help me choose and select which of these four topics you wish to be posted next.

Thank you.