Second Half of Ashley Interview – I ought to be charging admission to read this one, wow. Holy freaking wow.

Sinner: Thank you for coming back for more.

Ashley: Thank you for the good wine.

Sinner: Thanks for wearing a skirt.

Ashley: Thank you for lighting candles.

Sinner: Okay! I thought we’d start with this survey I posted on the blog about female masturbation. I’ll show you the page – basically, I listed my predictions and am going to compare them to the survey survey results. Some of the questions refer to husbands, so just give the answers you would given a few years ago while you were still with your husband.

Ashley: Okay.

(I’m going to read/show her the survey on the blog so I don’t’ have to include all the choices here – just going to put the questions with Ashley’s answers.)

Ashley: While Masturbating, I more often …: think about person/persons other than husband/significant other

Ashley: While masturbating I stimulate myself most with: equal amounts of clitoral and vaginal

Ashley: I have a colorful toy (red, pink, purple, etc): Yes

Ashley: When I masturbate I usually…: Give myself multiple orgasms

Ashley: The fantasies I think about while masturbating are more…: Dirty

Ashley: As I’m getting close to orgasm I most often think about…: Specific sex acts

Ashley: The things I think about while masturbating are usually…: Naughtier than what I do with husband/significant other

Ashley: The orgasms I have while masturbating are usually: Stronger than those I have with husband/significant other

Ashley: I masturbate…: More often than I have sex

Sinner: Yea, I was fairly accurate on most of my predictions, but getting killed on “the type of fantasies women have” and what “what they think about close to orgasm.” I wrongly predicted most would say they have abstract and romantic fantasies; so far, like you, the majority say they have dirty fantasies and think about specific, not abstract sex acts.

Ashley: You have no idea (ha ha).

Sinner: True, so tell me then – give me an example of something dirty you’ve thought about while masturbating… you don’t have to tell any specific fantasy – just curious if for you, a “dirty” fantasy means kissing without brushing your teeth, or “dirty” as in “dirty?”

Ashley: No, I’d have to say mine lean towards the “dirty, dirty” side of the spectrum.

Sinner: Now that’s very interesting. Like what, how dirty.

Ashley: Dirtier than I would do in reality, sometimes. Multiple men, stuff like that, it varies.

Sinner: Well, I have just a couple reader questions for you tonight, you ready for one?

Ashley: Sure.

Reader Submitted:After you separated from your husband, did you binge at all sexually while you were rebounding? I married my ex when I was twenty and when I divorced him nineteen years later, I went a bit off the rails.  Just curious if you experienced anything like that. For me, I think I had to prove to myself that I was sexually independent and free again.

Ashley: Good question. In general I have not rebounded in per se, not yet anyway. I should probably stop with that, but I will say that I did go way overboard on one occasion shortly after my husband moved out. It’s probably why I have not done much since. Things got so out of hand one night that I scared myself, as far as what I might do and so forth.

Sinner: Wow. You do understand that know you must tell us what happened, the world cannot continue, for any of us, until we know. I’ll hunger strike, my readers will picket… take your time, I’m going to get some more wine and what not.

Ashley: Oh gosh. Where to begin. Well, I had a friend who I met – our daughters played soccer together, and we became pretty good friends. My husband and I got together with her and her husband a few times, and when things got really bad with my husband, right before he moved out, I leaned on them quite a bit and even stayed with them a few nights after blowups with my husband.

A few weeks after my husband moved out, she convinced me to go out with her and her husband and “have some fun.” We drank way too much. They where living about an hour away at the time, and invited me to stay the night so I’d not have to worry about driving. We were having a good time and dancing, and when we got back to their house, things got really random. Basically, we ended up sleeping together.

Sinner: You fell asleep in their bed, or you mean you had sex with them.

Ashley: I didn’t’ fall asleep in their bed.

Sinner: Oh my god. Did you enjoy it? Have done it again since? So, did her husband fuck you, is that what happened.?

Ashley: I believe I enjoyed it at the time, the parts I remember, but felt embarrassed and regretted it as soon as I sobered up. I’ve spoken to her a few times but haven’t seen them in person since. Yes to the question about her husband.

Sinner: Good lord. So, he fucked you how, and where was she?

Ashley: I believe he was behind me for some of the time,  and she was right there.

Sinner: There, where? What was she doing?

Ashley: Oh gosh. I remember her being in front of me and me going down on her, I don’t remember how long exactly, but it seems like were all doing that for a good while, her in in front of me and him doing me from behind that is. It’s not something I’ve ever wanted to do, get with a woman like that, which tells you how drunk and out of my mind I was.

Sinner: Holy shit, what a story. Well, I think you should enjoy the memory and not feel bad about it, you didn’t do any harm. Was it like an all night love fest, or just sort of happened and then you all passed out? Did you get off on it? Did she go down on you?

Ashley: Not all night, but a few hours probably, I would have never done it had I not been so drunk, but like I said, I believe I enjoyed myself. You think your reader who asked the question was expecting that answer?

Sinner: Who would have expected such an awesome answer. I need a cold shower now, that was hot.

All you guys out there, remember Ashley’s story before leaving your wife or agreeing to a temporary separation, because this is the kind of thing that’s likely to happen if you give your wife a reprieve from the marital contract. I’m not sure I can think of a single woman who did not fuck around and get wild during a marital separation. If you do a trial separation, you might as well just get a divorce unless you can live with your partner having sex with others, because it will happen.

Sinner: So was her husband better than your ex? Hotter? Harder? Bigger? Better? Etc?

Ashley: First, I want to clarify one thing. When this happened, my marriage was over for good, and was never intended to be any kind of temporary separation. Yes to all the questions regarding my friend’s husband.

Sinner: Okay, my last question is a tough one, but I need your complete honesty. Bridging this discussion to the masturbation survey we were talking about, have you thought about fucking this guy – your friend’s husband, while masturbating since it happened?

Ashley: Yes.

Sinner: More than once?

Ashley: Yes.

Sinner: A handful of times?

Ashley: Yes.

Sinner: Great interview. Do you want to kiss or make out now?

Ashley: Yes.

Good night everybody.

 

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First Half of Interview with Ashley from Tinder – her ex – boobs – sex – and more

Tinder Ashley Interview

I was on Tinder while out by myself having sushi for dinner last night, and she agreed to come over and have a few drinks and do an interview.

We’ve had about an hour to make each other’s acquaintance and get through a bottle of Markham. Just uncorked another and we’re here at my dining table. We’ll be passing the laptop for this one.


Sinner Saint: Thank you for coming over and doing this interview.

Instructions: How this works is, I ask you intrusive and shocking questions, and you see how many you can answer before you storm out my door in a fit of disgust and anger. A few of the questions were submitted by readers – so if you are particularly offended by one, it’s probably one of theirs.

Speaking of which, we’ll start with the most provocative question suggested by readers. “‘Did you come for an interview or did you really just want to get some dick?”

Ashley: Must the two be mutually exclusive?

Sinner Saint: So, you’re saying you wanted to do an interview and you wanted to get, um…

Ashley: I’m saying there’s room for both possibilities.

Sinner Saint. Got it. I think. So, you’re 37 years old, divorced and have one child, right?

Ashley: Yes, I have a daughter in Junior high who’s with her dad during the week and with me on weekends.

Sinner Saint: How long have you been divorced?

Ashley: Officially, the divorce is not final, but we haven’t lived together for two years.

Sinner Saint: So you kicked him out because his dick was too small?

Ashley: No, I left because he was an alcoholic and I was done dealing with it.

Sinner Saint: Sorry to hear that. So, his dick wasn’t too small?

Ashley: No, I didn’t have a problem with his size. As for erectile dysfunction due to the drinking, different story.

Sinner Saint: That sucks – for both of you. So, he couldn’t get hard anymore? How long was that going on? You were both pretty young for that to be happening.

Ashley: with enough effort I could usually get him hard enough to do something, but he couldn’t get a full erection and would lose it right away. It’s probably been five years or longer since I’ve seen him “full functioning” shall we say. He’s seven years older than I, but still, I know it was the drinking and not his age. Again, I left because of the drinking, the ED was just one of many problems it was causing.

Sinner Saint: Do you still get together and have sex now and then out of convenience when you’re particularly horny.

Ashley: Do we need to do a lesson on erectile dysfunction? Sorry, that sounded a bit bitchy, obviously I’m not bitter at all about it. (ha ha). He chose drinking at the expense of his equipment working.

Sinner Saint: Have you met up with other guys on Tinder? Did you fuck them? On the first date?

Ashley: I have met up with two I met on Tinder and one of them I had sex with.

Sinner Saint: Nice, how was that? Was it your first time back in the saddle after your and your husband split up?

Ashley: Yes, had been twelve years since I had been with anyone other than my husband, so that was exciting. There was some ED going on with him too, wouldn’t you know, but it wasn’t too bad.

Sinner Saint: Not too bad… does that mean you had orgasms while fucking him?

Ashley: Ive never had much difficulty with that. I know some girls have a difficult time with it.

Sinner Saint: Okay, here’s two more questions suggested by readers. Reader Q 1: “Have you had any big black cock? Reader Q 2: “Look at Duncan and describe what you see ~ give us an overview or general impression?” Hmm, wonder which question was suggested by a guy and which from a female. LMAO. Love it.

Ashley: No “big black cock” as of yet, and let me see

He is dressed casually in a plain white t-shirt and jeans, and fancy shoes. He’s got gorgeous, deep blue eyes, and nice hair that is just slightly receding (no sign of balding). Hopefully that answers the question? He’s in good shape and quite handsome if that is what you’re asking.

Sinner Saint: I might not include this questions.

Ashley: Now he’s blushing.

Sinner Saint: Shut the fuck up.

Ashley: So sensitive. I’m just answering the questions YOU gave me.

Sinner Saint: Good point. I should have not given you it, but I didn’t want to be a dick and not ask questions that readers took the time to contribute.

Ashley: I thought it was good question.

Sinner Saint: Well I thought the “big black cock” question was particularly inspired.

Okay, one more reader question. “Describe the bra and panties you are wearing and show sinner your tits so he can take a pic so we can see them.”

Ashley: Are these really coming from readers?

Sinner Saint: Okay, that last one was me, but the others were from readers I swear.

Ashley: Oh you are bad. I am wearing white thong panties and just a white bra that I like, and sorry, I have a teenage daughter who doesn’t need to be running into nude pics of her mother on the internet.

Sinner Saint: Good point, totally understand. Shall we take a bathroom break, and we can discuss.. We could finish up tonight, or I’m free tomorrow night or Friday if you want to finish second half then?

Ashley: I have my daughter on Friday, but maybe tomorrow. We can discuss.

Young ladies, thank me. These theories might save you from sexless marriage

Common scenarios that lead to extreme dissatisfaction with marital  sex life.

You can find a lot of blogs and discussions – where wives talk of sexless marriages. It’s hard to know how many are in such a marriage  – there may be many who are not bothered by it enough to blog about it.

Obviously sex is important for people – and lack of it can derail a marriage… but..

With all these wives in sexless marriages, it begs the question: are people getting married without a clear idea of what the sex will be like with their spouse?

Sure, sometimes people have health issues that prevent them from performing like they used to  – but I don’t believe sexual dysfunction is to blame in most cases. If not sexual dysfunction, what is it usually?

I don’t think I’ve ever known of anyone suffering through a sexless marriage because the husband was entirely dysfunctional. Less than ideal in various ways but not defunct.

So, what’s the deal with these sexless marriages then?

Every couple’s marriage is unique but I’ve noticed some patterns – perhaps some common paths that tend to lead a wife to a sexless, or sexually insufficient marriage. I gave seen men blogging  about their sexless marriage, I haven’t known any men who were fed up in their sexless marriages, otherwise, I may have included scenarios for men too.

Based on the situations I’ve seen where wives were fed up with their marital sex life, I propose the following theories.

Scenario #1 – Gold digger or Family martyr

Betty picks out and marries a responsible, good provider to have children with and the  sexual compatibility between her and her husband is a low priority concern. He may even be ten years older than her – all the better. The relevance of sexual compatibility is eclipsed by what seems more paramount to successful childbearing.  You can raise children without good sex – but food and shelter – pretty critical.

As the children need her less – and she has to find herself again – she realizes she wants sex; and, she wants it really bad because her sex life hasn’t been anybody’s priority for 15 or twenty years. If her sexual desires aren’t satisfied by her hard working, devoted husband and father of kids for 20 years, she betrays him for doing and being exactly what she married him for doing and being .

Scenario #2 – Horny and popular – marries jock

Wife marries a jock for his looks and perhaps sexual prowess, and doesn’t worry about how smart or responsible he is because she’s not ready to have kids yet anyway; – and, she over-values her guy’s teenage popularity.

(Of course, there are popular, hunks who are intelligent and have good character and families) …

but, those who don’t – who shined early – will likely not age well and become much less desirable before long. Unintelligent people take less care of themselves. If their is family instability and/or psychosis in his history – increases the likelihood of problems. Macho, highs school jocks often go bald in their twenties – do to unbalanced testosterone (that’s why they were young jocks) – they also never shed the cocky notion that wife should feel lucky to be with them – (because back in high school lots of girls had a crush etc.) – He’ll have depression because his HS popularity becomes irrelevant. He’s likely to cheat with girls who might make him feel like the young popular stud he was.

So, unhealthy, bald, possibly cheating, depressed, etc. etc. – if he’s able to fuck the wife after 40 – he’s likely to be such an asshole that she doesn’t feel like fucking him. So, the wife still likes sex as she always did – and if she’s smart,  she’ll probably go find the rich nerd that scenario #1 wife left – teach him how to have great sex; and scenario #1 wife will find #2 wife’s cheater ,ex-football burnout and get off on his big jock dick before the relationship goes nowhere.

Scenario #3 – high sex drive – high access to partners

This one is probably less common – but I find this scenario most interesting and erotic. Usually the wife is very attractive however not always – women don’t have to look like models to find a high availability of agreeable partners.

Sometimes the husband has a supercharged libido too – and they’ll swing or work something out. But, if the husband is just normal, when the opportunity to cheat is hot enough and the risk low enough – most these women will eventually encounter a “worth it” situation.

Women I’ve known like this don’t leave their husbands – don’t even tell him actually. The two I can think of who are not still with their husbands both caught cheating and the the husbands kicked them to the curb. Most are loving wives, but discreetly do stuff to supplement their sex life.