Last updated 2/13/2017
Q. How did you come up with the name Sinner Saint?
The name came about after I had sex with a coworker and friend, two weeks before her wedding. You can read the story for details, but after we were done, I said to her, “I’m a sinner now, no doubt.” She replied, “No, actually, I’d say you’re a Goddamn saint!”
Q. So is it just a clever name or is there a deeper connection of “Sinner Saint” to your writing? I think I get the Sinner part of the name, can you explain the idea behind the Saint part?
The “Saint” represents the side of me that cares for people and can’t stand to see injustice, or people getting bullied or abused. There’s always been contradictions between my sometimes scandalous behavior and the sometimes positive results, or positive intentions, of my behavior. Bad things for good reasons? Or, sin with good intentions?
For instance, in high school I was selected to deliver the speech on character for the National Honor Society: The next day I was suspended from school for selling all the girls see through, open fly men’s boxer shorts with the school logo on them. It turns out a lot of girls purchased tiny sizes and were wearing them to school (I think the actual cause for all the uproar was not about students, but that the male teachers and staff were getting too “distracted” by the situation).
Or, during my sophomore year of college – the first time I had sex with a married woman: it was my philosophy professor while she was on the phone with her husband. That was the sinner at work; however, her husband had been having an affair with one of his grad students for nearly a year, and “out of the goodness of my heart,” I “gave of myself” to help her get revenge on him and get through her devastation. Read my stories and discover more about the sinner-saint duality.
Q. What made you decide to create this blog and publish a series of stories?
I don’t have any children or family of my own, but after decades of not being restricted by such commitments, I’ve had time and freedom to get into mischief.
I never expected to be this old and single. On the bright side, I’ve got wild times to write about and people are reading erotica: hopefully there’s a demand for stories that are true – or at least more realistic than is typical.
Q. Why are all your stories about sex? Why did you chose to write erotic stories?
I write about the steamier and most scandalous, because it keeps my attention long enough to finish a story. I didn’t set out to write about sex, but many of the best stories have something to do with it.
(While most people date and get crazy for five to ten years before becoming tied down with marriage and family, I’ve been working on the dating and “getting crazy” part for a couple decades. So, before you see all my stories and figure I must be a gigolo, or rock star incognito, or just full of shit, think about your own life and how many girls or guys you got crazy with before getting married; then multiply that by how much longer I’ve been single.)
Q. Your stories aren’t actually true, right?
I aim to write stories that seem as real as possible: for me, a realistic story is more interesting and has more potential to arouse. I add, remove, and adjust the facts only as is necessary to translate my experiences into effective stories. Dare, the diary’s first publication, is at least seventy percent true. A few stories to be published soon, are as much as ninety percent true.
Q. Most of the women in your stories are married, true? Is there a reason why?
Not true. It is the case with recent stories. As I get older, I have more interaction with women who are married – hence more of them in stories. I am not in my twenties anymore, and by my age most have married.
A less obvious reason is that I am shy and have always been more comfortable letting a girl come to me. When I get together with someone it’s usually because they’ve made the first move, and while It may sound counter-intuitive, married women (who are looking) are more assertive about making the first move.
Q. Speaking of women who are married or engaged, why would you risk destroying someone’s relationship or marriage?
I don’t encourage anyone to betray their relationship. People govern their own morality, it’s not for me to choose what is wrong, or justifiable for them. I do feel guilty about some of the behavior I’ve participated in. I could have been a better person in many ways, must I own their half of the responsibility as well?
(If you read my stories, you see that It has not been my intention to break the unbroken, corrupt the innocent, spoil the cherished nor disrupt the sated.)
Q. Do you cheat on your significant others?
As a rule I do not cheat. I have when I was much younger in high school and college. If I ever get married, I will not cheat.
Q. Do you avoid marriage because you are worried you’ll cheat?
It may be a factor but not a big one. I have not married because I have not met the girl for me yet. There was actually someone who was close, but I was young and not ready – and the options seemed abundant. I don’t want to make a sacred vow to someone just because all the requirements seem to match up. I want to give a wife all my heart – my last breath – It must be someone who I can trust with it.
(p.s. a wife with large breasts or a nice ass wouldn’t suck. honesty and kindness trump all other qualities. sense of humor is bonus)
Q. What was your most embarrassing moment?
There are many to choose from – difficult choice. I’ll go with the time I went to the state fair with my sisters – when I was in junior high school. I guess I was excited – very anxious to get into the fair, and ran through the wrong turn-style. It was the exit – instead of the entrance right next to it. The turn-style was the perfectly wrong height – if you know what I mean, and the next thing I know I was on the ground with a crowd around me, with paramedics arriving. As incredibly painful as it was, the embarrassment was worse.
Q. What are your plans for The Sinner Saint Diary?
- One idea I am working on, is to get a participant in a story to write their version of it, and then post them on the blog for readers to compare the two perspectives.
- I am planning to have a few of the real people behind the characters that appear in the stories, do interviews for the blog. And, of course, I will continue doing interviews with both readers, and other interesting people as I stumble across them.
- I want to include audio or video scenes from some of the stories – find some talented actors as voices for the different characters. Ultimately, I hope to live-stream a theatrical performance of a story.
- The Sinner Saint Diary is my diary. With it, I hope to fuck with your perceptions and assumptions, exceed your expectations, and cross-pollinate mediums and genres. I intend to use every part of my being, and resources, to get you off, push your thinking, and contribute to the scope of your view and the joy in your world.
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