Why is it that girls can fall out of love so totally and quickly? Why does their adoration never return once it is gone?

I’m actually going to spoil the suspense and begin with my conclusion on this issue.

In general, for us guys, love does not involve idolization. We don’t have to convince ourselves that a girl is king of the world and the very source of magic in our reality. Not to say men never obsess about a girl, but their obsession is to have her, it’s irrelevant if she’s a super hero or not.

We don’t want you to be supernaturally magnificent, and we don’t want to make you feel like you are – a thing that I think girls do sometimes to manipulate men into loving them.


So, if we don’t want a wonder goddess who walks on water, what in the hell do guys want. Easy question, I will tell you, guys want to be yours. We are vastly less picky, perhaps to as much a degree more rational (stop, don’t fight, we won’t go there).

We want devotion and to be needed, wanted, claimed. And you girls know this, and many girls who are not so conscientious, use our nature to fuck with heads and manipulate. It is so easy: be shifty about your loyalty, make it as confusing as possible for him to discern if you are his, and only his, just give him conflicting messages as to where the hell your devotion is.

Of course, such tactics will fail, you’ll lose thee strong and sound men: most guys can be spun upside down, for a while by such games, but the honest and strong will know you jacked with their head, betrayed by way of mind fuck, and will never love you.

We digress, so back to why guys don’t lose love, go cold, switch off like you girls. We never mistook you for a god, or for a super-human even, so our perception of you can’t be shattered by any realization that you’re not at all as wonderful as we thought.

We probably thought your boobs are nice – something about you attracts us obviously, and we begin loving you to the extent that you devote to us, commit.  Nothing that attracted us to you is  going to change so fast that we suddenly lose the love – suddenly have no interest.

But with girls – their men have to be put on a pedestal (why would anyone be worthy of their love if they weren’t bursting with greatness and unfathomable awesomeness?)

The more amazing you’ve built the image of your man up to be, the faster you’re going to be utterly uninterested when you wake up from the fantastic delusion that’s been paved as your insurance for choosing him.






4 thoughts on “Why is it that girls can fall out of love so totally and quickly? Why does their adoration never return once it is gone?

  1. I gotta say, you could switch the sexes out in this post and pretty much sum up how I feel about men. I am the one who leaves only after I have been treated poorly for too long. I feel like men manipulate women into loving them, and then discard them. So, just another perspective.


  2. I was thinking the same thing. I reversed what I was reading and instantly found myself thinking ‘hey that’s me’. After years of being in relationships that went wrong probably because I did build up this ridiculous image of them as ‘king’ which always eventually meant I had ‘had enough’ and fell out of love over night and then dumped their sorry asses, I have developed a new way to manage my relationships. And I am doing it the way guy’s do it (as in what you have explained above). And my god it makes life so much easier. Equally because all the men I am involved with are doing it because they want the same situation as me (ie non-monogamous ongoing relationships) nobody is put up on a pedestal but everyone gets to indulge their basic need – sexual conquest. And depending on the individual relationship that also spills into conversation and companionship to varying degrees. And f*** me it works!

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    • Great it is working. I’m not advocating, but just saying it is what happens. Also, being monogamous or not is fine, but idolizing can happen regardless. I support your efforts, but doubt you’ll break this rule of nature: if you lose it for a man you loved, you’ll be flat done and never be hot for him again.

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