Spice it up I: Intro to new series where I suggest naughty things to spice up your sex life.

Have you been married for a while and are bored? Are you dating  and looking for something hot to try that you haven’t? Or, single but want to do something sexy?

In this series I will share a few suggestions per installment. If there seems to be interest, I will keep them coming.


 

Suggestion One: Fuck & Phone

A very easy way to make things hot. You can flip coins if need be, to decide who goes first, and each take a turn. If either of you get off on it, repeat.

On your turn, you choose the person your lover will call and be on the phone with while the both of you fuck. Who the person is will vary significantly for each individual, depending on their sexuality and fetishes

For me, I usually choose someone who my lover would least want to know what was happening, but not someone too inappropriate to be sexy. I’ve tried this having a girlfriend on the phone with, but not limited to, Mother, sister, best friend, boss, ex boyfriend, ex husband, and current husband.

Which got me off the most? Probably current husband, followed by best friend, then ex boyfriend.

Tips: If it is your turn – so your lover is the one on the phone, the objective is to try to make your lover come, or at least turned on, while they attempt to have their phone conversation.

To avoid having your lover quickly and conveniently end the phone conversation as soon as it becomes difficult for them, you might make an agreement as to a penalty for your lover if they end their phone conversation before coming.

Suggestion Two: Jealousy done correctly.

This is a bit risky but extremely arousing. You can trade off turns. Whoever’s turn needs to wait until they are really worked up and near orgasm, then they tell the other, “go.”

When the lover hears “go”, they tell something true, about what they’ve done or something they feel, that will make the other jealous. The person confessing should have thought of and decided upon their confession in advance, so they’re ready to say their confession as soon as they hear “go.”

The same things that cause desire also squelch it. And vice versa. the Idea here is to control the framing of the truth, at the perfect moment to have it framed in the positive – as a turn on. Will get the person listening off harder and perhaps the best way to come clean for the confessor: It is more difficult for someone to condemn you for something after they’ve gotten off over it.

Examples of stuff that confessor can say.: 

  • They had a fantasy about my ex yesterday.
  • They dreamed about fucking their personal trainer.
  • The hot masseuse they had  when when got that massage in Hawaii, went down on them and got them off.
  • Their boss is hot, hard for them to concentrate  on work sometimes.
  • They often think about fucking your friend.

Warning & Disclaimer: This game is risky. If your relationship is fragile, proceed with caution.

One time when  I played this game with a lover, she said:

“I wish (insert here my good friend’s name)  was fucking me right now.”

The worst time ever, my  girlfriend said:
“I had sex with (insert here, the name of her ex roommate who was supposedly never more than just a friend), more than once. Actually, a lot, he was really good at it.”


Obviously, these were  not easy to hear; however, I said go when I was about to come, and the confession became associated with the orgasm that was, at that point, too close to stop. At the same time, my girlfriend had the opportunity to get things out in the open, that she probably wouldn’t have ever confessed otherwise.

It’s safer than asphyxiation, and probably more arousing if you confess the really difficult things.

 

 

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