The reader comments throughout this series have been enlightening: together we have identified the following factors and components.
Cheating, Sexual Infidelity
Four Main Components:
- Two or more people in a relationship:
Marriage, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged couples, domestic partners, etc.
- One or more persons outside the relationship:
This person can be involved in a physical way, or through media.
- Sexual stimulation:
Behavior that sexually is stimulating for cheater or participant.
- Knowingly breaking an assumed or agreed upon rule, without the consent of the other party.
- Doing something that you know your partner believes you are not doing
- Doing something that you know your partner has an expectation you’re not doing
Some of the properties we’ve discussed:
The Other Person:
Stranger, Co-Worker, Acquaintance, Professional
Double Cheats – Spouse’s Friends/Family, Friend’s Spouse
Exposure Pics, Exposure in Person
Masturbation cam, Masturbation in Person
Sexual contact: Non invasive, Intercourse
Amusement, Ego Boost, Revenge
Sexual Arousal for Cheater and Accomplice
Sexual Release/Orgasm for Cheater and Accomplice
Financial Gain for Cheater and Accomplice
One Occurrence: Minutes. Hours, All Day or Night
Term: Days, Weeks, Months, Years
Frequency: Daily, Weekly, Bi-weekly, Monthly
Hopefully this outline will help focus the discussion, and give us some terms and definition for reference. Now that we have a sketch of what cheating looks likes, Part V identifies loopholes – suggests some ways to beat the system – to be naughty without cheating.
Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.
Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?
Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity
Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity
Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.
Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?
Cheating 7: When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship
Cheating 8: Is it Really Sex or affection we Want or is Cheating a Settlement?
Cheating 9: Considering Special Features in Defense of Sexual Infidelity
Cheating 10: Looking for a bit of fun before spilling the beans
Cheating XI: How Not to Sleep With Married People