Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity

The reader comments throughout this series have been enlightening: together we have identified the following factors and components.


Cheating, Sexual Infidelity

Four Main Components:

  1. Two or more people in a relationship:
    Marriage, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged couples, domestic partners, etc.
  2. One or more persons outside the relationship:
    This person can be involved in a physical way, or through media.
  3. Sexual stimulation:
    Behavior that sexually is stimulating for cheater or participant.
  4. Betrayal:
    • Knowingly breaking an assumed or agreed upon rule, without the consent of the other party.
    • Doing something that you know your partner believes you are not doing
    • Doing something that you know your partner has an expectation you’re not doing

Some of the properties we’ve discussed:

Context:
Imagination
Remote/Web/Phone
In Person

The Other Person:
Imaginary
Stranger, Co-Worker, Acquaintance, Professional
Friend, Ex
Double Cheats – Spouse’s Friends/Family, Friend’s Spouse

Activity:
Texting
Exposure Pics, Exposure in Person
Masturbation cam, Masturbation in Person
Non-Romantic Touching
Sexual contact: Non invasive, Intercourse

Result:
Amusement, Ego Boost, Revenge
Sexual Arousal for Cheater and Accomplice
Sexual Release/Orgasm for Cheater and Accomplice
Financial Gain for Cheater and Accomplice

Duration:
One Occurrence: Minutes. Hours, All Day or Night
Term: Days, Weeks, Months, Years
Frequency: Daily, Weekly, Bi-weekly, Monthly


Hopefully this outline will help focus the discussion, and give us some terms and definition for reference. Now that we have a sketch of what cheating looks likes, Part V identifies loopholes – suggests some ways to beat the system – to be naughty without cheating.


Cheating Series:

Cheating: Issues, Questions & Implications of shifting attitudes towards marital infidelity.

Cheating Part II: How much flirtation is healthy and when does it become infidelity?

Cheating III: Sex in Head, Mental Infidelity

Cheating IV: Anatomy of Infidelity

Cheating Part V: Loopholes, Free Zones and Grey Areas.

Cheating VII: Time Warp Infidelity – Sex After or Before the Relationship?

Cheating 7: When You Stumble Upon Much Better Sex Outside Your Relationship

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